Daniel was walking Webster in the garden that surrounded his apartment house.
A little girl of two or three was very excited to see Webster. Webster was also
very excited to see her and jumped up enough that the little girl became
frightened and started to cry. The mother picked up her child, smiled at Daniel and
told him not to worry. Daniel sat down on the pavement with Webster to show
the little girl that she didn’t need to be afraid, that Webster was gentle. Daniel stayed
there on the sidewalk petting Webster and talking to the little girl until she
became comfortable and slowly and cautiously got down from her mother’s
arms and came to join Daniel and Webster on the sidewalk. Soon the little girl
was laughing as Webster licked her hand. Daniel could have just apologized
and continued on his walk with Webster, leaving the little girl’s mother
to deal with her crying and scared daughter, he could have, but that would not
have been Daniel.
Daniel and I were on a subway train into Philadelphia. There was a homeless
man standing in the aisle holding onto several bags of belongings. Nearly everyone else in our car
was seated. The train came to a sudden stop and the man fell over losing hold of all of his
bags. All thepassengers remained seated, either not noticing or pretending not to
notice the man’s difficulty. With no hesitation, Daniel jumped up to help the man get up,
collect his bags and get safely off the train.
Daniel was in line behind an elderly woman at the check-out counter at a
pharmacy. He overheard the woman arguing with the pharmacist about the price
of the drug she needed. She ended up leaving without getting it. Daniel, not
wanting to embarrass her in the store, followed her out to the street. He stopped
her and said that he had overheard her conversation with the pharmacist and
knew how expensive drugs could be. He told her that he had just received a bonus
at work and would be happy to get the prescription for her. Daniel had
not received a bonus but wanted her to feel comfortable in accepting the.
One of Daniel’s greatest gifts was his ability to make people feel comfortable,
special, important and loved.
A man in his eighties walked by our house every day. He had been a professor of history at
St. Joseph’s University but had been retired for many years. Daniel always showed an interest
in him and addressed him as “Professor”. Now I do too.
Daniel called the car mechanic he used, “Doc.”
Two neighbors had cancer. Daniel did not avoid them but spoke to them
comfortably as he always had. He was also kind to the husbands after their
wives died. Since Daniel’s death I have seen how difficult it can be for someone to
address someone who has just lost an important person in their life.
Daniel had a special ability to feel empathy for people and I often saw how
his interest in them helped people to feel better about themselves.
What a wonderful son you raised!
If this world had a modicum of the love, empathy and kindness that Daniel exhibited, we would not be in the situation we are in today.
It sounds like Daniel did not have an ounce of hatred, mean-spiritedness and destruction that we see all around us today.
Thank you so much for sharing these stories. Even though I did know Daniel, I feel like I am meeting him through your posts. xo
Thanks, Diana. At his best Daniel had wonderful values. He would have acknowledged that he was far from perfect.
Beautiful examples of such a caring,warm and kind man. He is such a perfect example of the meaning of the saying” do unto others as you want them to do to you. “
Elida, you raised a real mensch. May his memory continue to always be a blessing.
Sending you hugs and thinking of you always, especially around this time of year.
Thanks, Pearl. He really did want a fair world.
Daniel really did care for everyone – friends and strangers alike. I know he’s inspired me to be more caring and generous.